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TOPIC: A couple hanging out with friends of opposite sex.

A couple hanging out with friends of opposite sex. 09 Apr 2016 13:12 #9464

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A couple hanging out with friends of opposite sex.

Before I continue writing, I would like to say that this opinion varies on different kinds of people due to personal standard and characteristics.
Let’s first suppose that there is a couple and they have their own friends. Some are men and the rest is women and they’ve known each other quite a long time. Usually men think that it is okay for them to hang out with female friends alone whatever their intentions are while they don’t really agree with the idea of their girlfriends hanging out with their male friends alone. The first possible reason they don’t like it is because of jealousy and doubt. They will wonder what their girlfriends are doing when they can’t actually watch. What I don’t get is that why men think they can hang out while women ( their girlfriends ) cannot. Is it because they are men who think they are in higher position? If so, that is sexism.
I don’t think the idea is only limited to men but women as well. Whether men or women, while they think it’s actually fine for them to do so, they don’t like it when their significant others do it.
Even I sometimes, happen to think in that way and I don’t understand why I think so. I recognize that it not only is sexism but also hypocrisy.
Because of it, a couple might have a quarrel. A woman may ask her boyfriend or vice versa “You think you can hang out with another female friend while I can’t? Why? Because I’m a woman?” then a very serious argument begins.
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A couple hanging out with friends of opposite sex. 09 Apr 2016 16:33 #9467

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Hey Hanmaro.S, this is an interesting post. In your forum posting, you said this "What I don’t get is that why men think they can hang out while women ( their girlfriends ) cannot. Is it because they are men who think they are in higher position? If so, that is sexism." I understand your curiosity and the situational example you used certainly paints men to be sexist, however, I don't think all men act this way. Generally, one stereotype does not apply to all people of a gender. I do hear about this/experience this kind of experience often enough that I agree it is certainly accurate in a lot of instances. I believe men are can be insecure when they hear a women is hanging out with a male friend, because they have been in that position before. Men personally have been friends with girls who are in relationships with hopes of breaking out of the "friend zone." When they are the boyfriend in the situation, they can clearly see what threats might exist since they are looking from the outside in.
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A couple hanging out with friends of opposite sex. 09 Apr 2016 17:00 #9469

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I think it's weird and not to say the least, wrong that our culture of our society is like this. I think it's because men is still seen as the sex with the more power than women. Therefor in this case, the woman is seen as the sex with less control and is not trustable. The man is simply seen as the individual with the most power and the one who should be in charge.
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